So what do you want us to do? Go up to your parents and make them accept this concept?Originally Posted by Jukebox
Or do you wish to take your secret to the grave until somebody during or after your lifetime finds out about it? That way, you don't have to tell your parents face-to-face.
Oh, none of that. I'm asking for advice, or a little help. Many of you have given me lots of that, and I thank you all. Some of your advice may just work, but I don't think I can do anything until I overcome my fear of reaction.
Ah OK, then no problem. Don't worry, you will eventually. Some things take time.
If your afraid to tell friends or family, then try looking into one of the many groups that have been made on the subject, might be helpful at the very least to hear about some of the ways people who actually would have gone through what you are going through and how they handled it.
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If you think you can do it convincingly, I would try to engage your parents in a purely hypothetical dialogue on the nature of their prejudices, their reasoning for it, and how they would respond if someone close to them turned out to be gay. I don't think it would be a good idea to jump straight to coming out, if you think there's any chance it could turn dangerous.
If this causes you to feel stifled at home I think you should also find a personal friend to come out to, confide in, and seek further advice from. (Assuming you haven't done that already.)
I have told a few friends who have faithfully kept silent. I do, however, think that that my secret may come out whether I like it or not. Anytime I think of hypothetical situations, I come up with this:
''Hi Mum and Dad, I have a friend who's gay and he's really scared to come out to his parents because he fears that their prejudice will come onto him which sparked him to go on the Internet and ask a few people how to come out to his parents. After reading the latest suggestion, he is currently saying the same speech to them that I am telling you now.''
Full of win.
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Good luck...
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Yep Lol.
I 2nd that!
Looks like you know what to do now.
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